When They Pull Away: Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Dance
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When They Pull Away: Understanding the Anxious-Avoidant Dance
Why does someone who seemed so into you suddenly go cold — and why does their distance make you want them more? This episode breaks down the anxious-avoidant cycle and how to stop it.
May 17, 2026 · 3:27 PM
Sources
This episode draws on the author's working knowledge of attachment theory and modern dating psychology, with no external sources fetched or cited. Core frameworks referenced:
- Bowlby, J. (1969–1980). Attachment and Loss (Vols. 1–3). Basic Books.
- Ainsworth, M. D. S. et al. (1978). Patterns of Attachment. Erlbaum.
- Levine, A. & Heller, R. (2010). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment. TarcherPerigee. (Popular framework; not directly quoted.)
No URLs cited. No external data fetched. Content reflects established psychological consensus.
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