Somebody Already Decided
A husband books a boys' weekend for the first weekend of November. His wife is due on the fifteenth of October.
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Somebody Already Decided
Episode guide
Four stories this morning, and one move running through every one of them. Somebody made a decision that belonged to two people, and then acted surprised that the other one had an opinion about it.
A husband who gets invited on a boys' weekend three weeks after his wife's due date. A wife who wants to sell the Brooklyn apartment they bought a year ago. A mother who spent years promising a trip home, and had a reason for it that nobody at home knew about. And a dinner where one person picks what the other one is eating.
These are anonymous posters' accounts, paraphrased to protect identifying details. A Reddit post is one person's version of events rather than proof of every claim, and a comment section is a crowd of readers reacting, not a verdict. All four stories surfaced on 6 October 2026, on r/AmItheAsshole, r/relationship_advice and r/TrueOffMyChest. Where a poster reports what somebody else said or thought, this piece repeats it as the poster's account.
Prime rib, or the eggplant
They are married, they don't eat out much, and when they do it is for an occasion. Which is exactly why the man is describing the ritual with such precision. Every time they look at a menu, his wife expects them to agree on mains so they can share. She also tends to want more than one dish. So the arrangement is that he orders something she likes, and somewhere around the middle of the meal they trade plates, so she gets her own dinner plus half of his. 1
He leans meat. She leans vegetables and fish. He writes that if he says he will have the steak, she says no, you should get the eggplant — and that this has become an argument he has now had a thousand times.
Last night they were out celebrating his work promotion. He chose the prime rib. She told him it didn't sound good. He told her he didn't care whether she wanted it or not, he did, and she could order whatever she liked. He also says he doesn't mind sharing a bite or two — it's the trade that gets him.
Two thousand upvotes and four hundred comments, and the replies mostly can't believe they are reading it. One says the fix is obvious: tell her what to order, so you get to try two dishes you actually want. Another points out that if she finds several things she wants, she could simply order them herself, and one asks the question that cuts underneath the whole arrangement — is she like this in other parts of the relationship, or is it only restaurants. No update, which means the next time they eat out, this is presumably still live.
The weekend three weeks after the due date
She is 27, she is 39 weeks pregnant, and she is due on 15 October. Her husband is 45. A friend of his has organised a boys' weekend for the first weekend of November, and her husband wants to go. 2
Here is what that weekend would actually be. The baby might not be a month old. She will not be a month postpartum. She already has a four-year-old at home. And she goes back to work in the first week of November, because her job is temporary and her leave is one month — all of October, and no more. Her question to the internet is whether she would be the asshole for being upset about it.
Eleven hundred upvotes and six hundred thirty comments, and the comment section is not split. One reader says the one thing she should not have to do is convince a 45-year-old man that a newborn is not a scheduling inconvenience. Another asks what the plan was — is he hoping to get out of as much of the newborn phase as he can. A third says that if her partner had gone on a boys' trip while she was fresh out of hospital with a second child at home, she would have told him not to bother coming back. No update.
The apartment they just finished renovating
They live in New York. Together five years, married two, and both of them rented their whole adult lives until last year. He has the well-paid job and the savings. She finished a master's three years ago, and these days she doesn't work, so he pays for everything — and he says that matters for the rest of the story. 3
Buying was her idea. They found a condominium in their Brooklyn neighbourhood, she loved it and kept calling it their dream place, so they bought it and put close to a hundred thousand dollars into the renovation. They moved in a few months later. They have been there almost a year.
Now she wants to sell, and he says he never saw it coming. Her reasons are all real ones. The children upstairs are loud in the evenings and it is putting strain on the marriage. Everyone in the building knows everyone, and the building group chat is a permanent argument about recycling and the shared washing machine. The neighbourhood, which he admits they didn't think through, is a former industrial area with fewer trees. She misses Manhattan, and says they are never going to be this young again. And the mortgage stresses her out — she worries about the market, even though he is the one paying it.
He is against it, and his reasons are not subtle either. She wanted Brooklyn, then she wanted to buy, then she wanted this exact apartment. He likes the place — elevator, garden, washing machine in the unit, brand new appliances, which in that city is not nothing. And he has run the numbers: selling next year would leave them somewhere between two hundred and three hundred thousand dollars down once broker fees, taxes and the renovation are counted.
Six hundred upvotes and seven hundred sixty comments, so more people wanted to talk about it than wanted to praise it. Readers point out that he pays for everything and she could get a job; that Brooklyn and Manhattan are connected by trains; that you don't get to leave your neighbours when you own the flat the way you do when you rent. One suggests they rent their place out and rent somewhere else for a year to see whether she actually likes it. The couple's current compromise is to wait a year and watch the market, which holds until the children upstairs start running again. It does not end the argument; it just puts it down. No update.
The trip that was never only a trip
This one is on r/TrueOffMyChest, and it is the heaviest thing on this morning's list. 4
After twenty years away, her mother finally organised a fifteen-day holiday back to her home country. She bought the tickets last year, after arguing about it until the rest of the family gave up. The poster offered to come along several times, and every time it fell through at the last minute for work. What she did notice was that her mother never seemed especially pleased when the poster was about to book. She assumed her mother wanted the trip to herself.
Last week, they discovered her mother's phone was not compatible with a travel SIM, so the family swapped her handset with her husband's, and the poster moved both parents' accounts across — Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp. Two days later, her father called her, upset, and showed her a conversation between her mother and one of her exes, a married man. The messages went back to the weeks when she was pushing so hard for the trip, and they discussed the meet-up they were planning.
Her father wanted to say nothing and forgive her quietly. The poster refused and insisted they do something. They compromised: she would do the confronting, and her father would stay out of it. On the call, her mother called it a silly mistake and said she had never planned to do anything. The poster told her the relationship is permanently damaged, and that if it happens again she is done. She also says the only reason she could make that call is that her father begged her to keep things looking normal — she needed two anxiety pills to get through it. And her mother still believes her husband knows nothing, so at home this week she is going about her business as though none of it happened.
There is an edit. This is not the first time. Her grandfather cheated on her grandmother until the day she died, and her mother was one of the people it hurt most — and spent the year criticising everybody else who cheated. Someone in the comments tells the poster to stay in her lane, because this is her parents' marriage and her father is entitled to handle it however he wants. Plenty of others are harsher about the father than about the mother. One reader's version of it is the line that stays with you: if somebody can cheat on their whole family, that is not a mistake, that is a person who put themselves first and hid it. No update.
Your group chat this morning
So the move in all four is the same. The husband never asked whether three weeks after the birth was a reasonable time to leave. The wife decided the apartment was a mistake before asking the person paying for it. The mother had a plan for the trip and told nobody. And the man at the restaurant has been handed a menu for years and told what he would like.
None of them is a cartoon villain, and that is what makes it good gossip. Every one of them has a version of the story where they are the reasonable one. They just never asked whether the other person had a version too.
So here is your question for the group chat this morning. Who in your life makes plans that quietly include you, without checking? And did you ever call it out, or did you just start quietly not showing up?
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